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SHORT VERSION (text or message) "Hey [name], I wanted you to hear this from me. My job at [Company] was made redundant. I'm okay and I'm working on a plan. I might need a bit of support, even just someone to talk to. Can I give you a call [tonight/this weekend]?" FOR A PARTNER "I need to talk to you about something important. My role has been made redundant. I'm scared and I don't want to hide it. Here's what I know: [last day, pay, notice]. Here's what I'm doing next: [applying for Jobseeker Support, talking to the bank, updating my CV]. Can we sit down together and go through our budget? I don't want to face this alone." FOR PARENTS / WHĀNAU "Mum/Dad, I want to let you know that I've lost my job in a restructure. It's nothing I did wrong. I'm applying for work and for support. I'm not asking for money, but I'd love to know I can ring you if I need a chat." IF YOU DO NEED HELP "Something that would really help me right now is [a meal once a week / someone to look over my CV / lending me the car for interviews / a loan of $X which I will repay by [date]]." WHEN YOU DON'T WANT ADVICE "I'm not looking for advice right now, I just need someone to listen."
Tips
- Redundancy is about the role, not you. Say it plainly and early; keeping it secret increases stress.
- Pick a calm moment. Choose one person first, then let them help you tell others.
- Be specific about help. People want to help but often don't know how.
- If money is shared, have a joint budget conversation early. MoneyTalks (0800 345 123) can help.
- If you feel overwhelmed, call or text 1737 any time, or Lifeline 0800 543 354.
General information, not legal advice. Keep a copy of everything you send. Spotted something out of date? Email help@unemployed.nz.